“All of us have special ones who have loved us into being. Would you just take ten seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are . . . ten seconds of silence.”
It’s February, and Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. February is often known for being a month dedicated to love—not only for sweethearts, but all things love, including all those we have loved and all those who have loved us over our lifetime. Family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and even our beloved pets.
When I was a child, one of my favorite things to do was to watch Mr. Rogers and his magical neighborhood. It was always a beautiful day in the neighborhood! His quiet presence, the feeling of belonging, and the wonder in the ordinary were most likely my first lessons in mindfulness. His slow, calm cadence, using moments of silence to communicate that he was all in. He didn’t seem rushed or bothered by distractions of the day. So much of what he taught in his episodes is still so relevant today.
In 1997, Mr. Rogers accepted an Emmy for Lifetime Achievement Award. He gave a very unique, poignant speech that evening that has stayed with me all of these years. While he was up there delivering his speech, he deliberately moved the spotlight away from himself, and moved it toward the people who have shaped us—people unseen, people with names known especially to us.
He said,
“All of us have special ones who have loved us into being. Would you just take, along with me, ten seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are—those who have cared about you and wanted what was best for you in life? Ten seconds of time. I’ll watch the time.”
Initially, people in the audience fidgeted, giggled, and were not sure what to do…
But then, you could see everyone settle into that space. Their minds go to very loving places. People sat in silence with tears welling up in their eyes, remembering the presence of people who have loved them into being. It was a beautiful moment, unexpected and very powerful.
He continued,
“Whomever you’ve been thinking about. . . how pleased they must be to know the difference you feel they’ve made.”
Such a sacred moment.
This Valentine’s Day, give yourself some time to think about “who loved you into being.” To feel grounded in that love, even if that person is no longer with us. Don’t worry about trying to find a perfect relationship without ambivalence (those are very rare), but focus on someone who has cared for you, wanted the very best for you in life.
Spend a few moments taking this in, allowing yourself to feel the connection with this person and feel the gratitude. Rest in feeling loved and cared about, knowing that you matter and that you have worth.
Finally, as Fred Rogers noted, this person (wherever they are) would be pleased to know the difference they made.
Wishing you love this month and many beautiful days in your own neighborhood,
Marygrace